Being the bigger person...WHY ISN'T IT WORKING?!

After planning numerous weddings, I've come to the conclusion that if there's no drama while planning your wedding...you're doing something wrong.  I could be wrong, but honestly...tell me one wedding you've known about in which everything went right; no family/friend drama, all the vendors were perfect, and the wedding went off without a hitch....yeah, that's what I thought! Though, if you can prove to me otherwise, I'd love to know their secret!


Is it worth becoming a bridezilla if something doesn't go your way?  Well, to answer this question as honestly as I can (and keep in mind, this is only my opinion)...it really depends on what it is that isn't going right or not going your way.  But when it truly comes down to it, shouldn't we always be the bigger person?

Growing up, I always heard, "Because it's the right thing to do." "Be the bigger person." "Treat people how you want to be treated." And these are all great ways to try and live by...but really...when you're planning one of the biggest days of your life...do these really come into play?

In recent experiences during my planning process, I have been tested and questioned myself many different times on whether or not I really want to "do the right thing" or better yet, "be the bigger person." To put it simply...it hasn't been as easy as being the bigger person...or even treating people how I want to be treated.

LESSON #6:
Sometimes you must give in to move on.  No matter how much you'd rather do the opposite.

You know those "help" sites?...yeah, the ones where you ask an expert for advice. Well, I literally got to a point where I no longer knew what to do or how to move forward regarding the situation I was in.  I didn't think I had a chance they would respond back...as I received an automated email telling me that they receive a high volume of questions everyday, and they can only respond to questions that haven't previously been answered on their website...though I had not seen a similar question on there, I still wasn't sure it was possible...but low and behold, about a month later...I got a letter! It really helped open my eyes and allowed me to see the advice I normally give everyone else "The only person you can change is yourself."  Though he and his wife worded it in a different way...I finally decided it was time to do the changing...even if that meant distancing myself.
I also want to share the best piece of advice they gave me:
"Often good people look too much for the approval of others. Then the solution is to say, with Lizzy Bennet, "I am only resolved to act in the manner, which will, in my own opinion, constitute my happiness, without reference to you..." "

Though this hasn't been the end all to the dramas that have come up...I've learned to really look deep within myself to continue moving forward.  And when you see the light at the end of the tunnel (marrying the man I love) everything really dissolves away.

TIP #5:
In the end, long after your wedding, the only thing that really matters is that you have married your true love.  And in reality, the only thing that you should honestly focus on is the marriage between you and your soon to be husband (or wife, if you're a guy and reading this!) :) 

With Love,

Cydney AKA The Soon to be Mrs. Johnson